Friday, January 31, 2014


January 31, 2014
 
Five Minute Friday:  Hero
 
He has a quiet walk, one which enables him to alight on you without your knowing, but with your enjoying.  He is so often soft spoken that when he speaks a louder volume, you sense it is of utmost importance.  And, you find in yourself the desire to listen carefully. 

He is a man of great knowledge.  One whose love of God is evidenced in his gentle demeanor and sweet smile.

He knows for whom it is he lives because he has taken time to know, to understand,

He is a man of great strength.  One whose personal life has faced challenges that would have left most lying prostrate on the floor and yet, he, with quiet ability, lifted himself up to take another step in this journey of life.  And, he had done so with grace and peace and joy. 

He is a man of great heart.  It has been said that we are to watch who the little children love for it is those who have the greatest hearts.  If this is a solid truth, then it is further proof that the heart of this man must be big for little children love to sit near him to learn and laugh and sing. 

He is a man who has learned that we all have a place in this life and finding that place and growing it to the best of our ability is our life's mission. 

When I close my eyes, I see this man as a little boy wearing smallish shorts and white shoes, laughing.  I see him in his Sears jeans and flannel shirt riding in the back yard simply enjoying life and being a part of the family.   

I read his youthful writings and see great potential in such a young man.  He is able to pen words onto paper with a maturity that comes from living deeply. 

I watch him warrior up to life never quitting always battling to be the best "him" he can be. 

Working hard, striving harder…. 

Never leaving behind his great heart but always carrying it forward as one would their coat of arms during battle.

I've never one time, in all the years I've known him, heard him complain at the challenges that life has thrown his way.  Never. 

Instead, I've witnessed his humble heart strive to find reason for the seasons in his life and watched as he gave over his heart to being true to himself. 

Blessed I am to have spent these past 45 years walking beside him in this journey of life.  He has lived in those short years what most of us spend many more seeking to be.. 

Godly

Patient

Kind

Tender

Strong

Brave

Generous

Intelligent

Endearing

Noble

Faithful

Forgiving 

Of all the people in this life I am living, I have learned more from this man than any other….and, not from what he had to say… 

But, from how he chooses to live. 

When I look into his eyes, the window to his soul, I see a man who has lived fully that which God has given him… 

And, I am grateful he is in my life. 

He is more than my friend, my confidant, my valiant warrior at arms… 

He is my brother,

My Hero 

And, as I write that simple word, hero, I know he would bow his head and disclaim the compliment in humble refusal to see himself in that light… 

But, a hero to me is not one exalted to the sky for great works and acts 

A hero is one who walks quietly doing what is right and just and pure, not in his own name nor for his own sake,
 
But in example…..

 

 

Thursday, January 30, 2014


As Only Your Mama Can….                                                                                                         January 30, 2014 

Life Lesson Numbers 6:  Live Your Life So That Your Passing Is A Celebration!!
In the past ten days, I have attended the memorials of two very Godly women.  One, I was intimately friends and shared the deepest parts of my soul with, and one with whom I wish I had done so.
Both had a common bond….which I pray will be true of me when I leave this life….and, I pray for you as well….
They were Godly women who loved God and others more than this life…and it was demonstrated in how they made use of their days….
Helen Teresa Jacoby McFadden was God's gift to our family since you were two years old.  She loved us right where we were….little children climbing gates to get to her pool, screaming loudly as we played in our back yard, sharing "Tom Turkey" visits with you as you looked in awe.  We cooked meals for the month, took walks together and prayed and cried and celebrated.  I have held her tiny hands in prayer and watched her as she held yours to do the same.
I can count three people in my life with whom I have shared my truths ….the good and the ugly….and, Helen is one of those three.  There is something other-worldly…sacred… when you have that kind of a friendship with another….it's what God intended when he gave us one another as life-mates….
Helen was my sister….my sacred friend who taught me all she knew about our Heavenly Father….
And, fortunately for me….that was a substantial gift for she knew Him well on this earth, and now knows Him intimately in Heaven.
Don't be fooled….Helen's life was not a confection of perfection.  She had her struggles, her sorrows, her heartaches.  She had things with which she struggled and worked through and battled to overcome.  I know this because she shared her life with me.
But, taught me this….yes, she did….
Life is to be celebrated!
Not simply in the way one would celebrate a birthday….or anniversary…or birth….
But, in the way one would celebrate the GIFT of each day of life…of living!
I can remember her encouraging me to look for the preciousness of each day…to find nuggets of joy…to be positive and expectant that with God all things are possible and all things are made beautiful…
She told me to find good in each person and peace in each experience. 
To not rely on my own understanding of things, but to give my all over to God who knew all things.
She taught me that daughters are sacred treasures and husbands are eternal gifts that you grow to understand and appreciate as time is added to your life.
She encouraged me to dream big dreams…and, to give my dreaming to our Heavenly Maker….and, to wait with great expectation.
It was while with Helen at a Focus on the Family Women's Conference that I heard that quote from Eva Self on which I raised you and your brothers…
"Mama told me…Eva…honey….you gotta dream big dreams, I mean really, really big dreams for Eva…if Jesus lives in your dreams…your dreams will live."
Helen and I loved that quote…..we spoke often about how just like we love to hear the dreams of our children, God loves to hear our dreams….
And, how, when you place God in the center of your dreams…Your Dreams Will Live!!
Helen lived out many of her dreams for her life…..and, we were witness to that while living next door to her and even after we moved, we were witness to that as she shared with us….
So much so, that when she called me to 1016 Balsam Drive to give me the news of her illness..and, then later again to her hospital bed, her words to me were not ones of sorrow and sadness for a life cut short…too short.
Her words to me were, "I had a great life….a wonderful time….and, I am ready to go"!!
Helen gave me…and you….and her family the greatest gift a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend could give those who love her…
She lived a full life….
She was God's girl…
When her time came to pass from this world to that new home with God…
She was ready!
So that, instead of mourning like those who have no hope…
We are able to CELEBRATE her life with the full expectation of joining her some day!!!
What a day of rejoicing that will be!!!
Fast forward about ten days…
And, I find myself once again sitting at a memorial of another such Godly woman…God's girl….
I didn't personally know Ms. Rose Marie Cox Davis.......but, then again, yes I did.
I have known her through her son, Ken, these past thirty-four years or so…
As I sat at her memorial, in a room filled to overflowing with family and friends, I could not help but smile….
It was said that she not only walked beside great dignitaries in the State of Kentucky as she served our Commonwealth,  but that she also walked among we common friends as she served us and our children as the gentle "cookie lady" and to her….we were all simply "family".
Doesn't that just give you a clear image of what a Godly heart she had for HIS children?
The minister, Dr. Fugate said that she was a selfless woman…a giver if you will.  She gave from the deepest part of her heart and in that giving, found her greatest joy.  In fact, he said that she was such a kind and gentle giver that when the time came for the recipients of her giving to take care of her as she battled cancer, she found it amazing and humbling to be on the receiving end of such love and support….
Dr. Fugate said that watching those who Ms. Davis had blessed by her sharing take their turn in returning that blessing back to her was a thing of humble beauty….and, watching her learn to be a receiver was truly a gift…..
Clearly, Ms. Davis…or "Blossom" as Ken and I called her, was a Godly woman who, too, loved God and His children more than herself.
And, like Mrs. Helen….it was clear from what was shared about her life and what I know through her son, Ken, that she, too…..
Celebrated her days!
As I left Helen's memorial which started out in a winter white-out but ended in a beautiful sunset….and, yesterday, as I left "Blossom's" memorial in the rays of sunshine which ended in a lovely sunset….
I was grateful…
To bear witness to the lives of two women who's passing, while leaving rays of sorrow at their absence…
More so left beams of joy at their living…
And, they didn't just live any little life….
They lived a life for which being a part of its celebration was a beautiful and wonderful and joyful
Gift….
So, dear daughter…..learn from Mrs. Helen and Ms. "Blossom"…..
That is their gift to you….to me
The example of living a life so that our passing is a day of CELEBRATION!!
Blessings,
Mama